To be happy for others does not come naturally for some people. This requires, among other things, a lot of generosity and emotional maturity.
When we receive news of successes and achievements from other people or from our loved ones, it is sometimes deeper feelings that influence our reaction and lead us to not share in the happiness. Our own insecurities and fears can move the success of the people closest to us and our positive reaction to it into the background. Jealousy, as well as feelings of unjust treatment, can play an equally important role.
The first of these feelings show up in childhood when we are jealous of the other kid’s great toys. The older we get, the more we learn how to react joyfully and proudly to the other person, out of sympathy. But when the ego gains the upper hand once joyful news of others can be met with a bitter reaction on our part.
Our ego alone is not a categorically bad thing, although it does not have a particularly good reputation. It is actually only there to take care of ourselves enough and at the same time to take care of our environment. If the ego becomes too strong, however, it can happen that we act or react selfishly and thus seemingly malicious or envious.
If we pursue our own goals clearly, are aware of ourselves and are satisfied, our inner envy does not pose a threat to the social situation either. A healthy ego in balance with a healthy self-confidence can also celebrate the successes of others. Diversifying our own feelings from happy news and thus experiencing them positively and being happy with our loved ones or even strangers gives us the opportunity to enjoy beautiful moments together even more.